My belief is that we are all born with something unique to offer the world; Rise Family Therapy is the fullest expression of that for me. My hope is that our work together will impact the trajectory of your life; that years from now you can look back and pinpoint this work, YOUR work, as the moment your course changed.
I work from the assumption that we cannot give what we don't have; whether in a friendship, relationship, or a parent-child dynamic. Teaching you to take care of yourself, heal the wounds from your past, and begin to engage in patterns of communication that are respectful and kind are a few of the ways we can change your future. To consider that the work you will do here can impact the future lineage of your family is powerful. YOU can be the one to break the cycle of generational "junk" that has been passed down. If that isn't the embodiment of hope, I'm not sure what is!
I want you to know that you are the expert on you; your child is the expert on your child. I want to honor this basic truth in all of our interactions. Our work will be collaborative and positive. We will focus on building skills and then getting you back to "real life." My style of therapy is not long and drawn out, but rather focused on efficiently equipping you with the tools you need to get back out there and live your best life. Everything you need is already within you; we just need to draw it out. When you're ready to do the work; it will be my honor to walk alongside of you in your journey to Rise.
Lauren McCown, MS, LMFT
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
State of Texas
Masters of Science: Marriage and Family Therapy
Texas Tech University
Bachelor of Arts: Psychology
Minor: Addictive Disorders and Recovery Studies
Texas Tech University
Related Professional Experience & Training
I have worked in several settings including a family therapy clinic, a children's advocacy center, and a non-profit agency.
I have additional professional training in the following modalities and topics:
Sand Tray Therapy (2018)
Child and Teen Anxiety (2018)
Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction for Teens (2018)
Mindfulness for Student Athletes (2018)
Certified Positive Discipline Parent Educator (2017)
Therapeutic Interventions for Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (2016)
Trust Based Relational Intervention (2016)
Cultural Diversity (2014-2018)
Great Start Premarital Workshop Facilitator (2011)
Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (2011, 2014, 2017)
Considering the Whole Family
General systems theory teaches us that individuals cannot be understood in isolation. We need to consider the impact and roles of our family members, peers and even the broader community on our conflicts and behavior.
A family system is created by a set of relationship agreements that determine the specific ways in which one family member will respond or react to the other. This interaction creates a predictable pattern of behavior; with family members causing each other and being caused by each other to act in a certain ways. This pattern of interaction can lead to balance, or to dysfunction.
Re-writing the Stories We Tell Ourselves
What narrative theory boils down to is this; the person is not the problem, the problem is the problem. When I first heard this statement, I was able to breath a huge sigh of relief. Good news! Therapy is not about fixing ourselves or someone else. Therapy is about re-authoring our identity and learning to interpret interactions and events with a different lens.
We all have stories that we tell ourselves; stories about who we are, where we came from, what we are good at, our interests, our failures, our capabilities, our personality. All of these stories are created and maintained by how we sequence interactions and events and assign meaning to them.
Expressive Arts, Activity Therapy, and New Experiences
Experiential theory is the combination of 'talk therapy' with hands on activities that help facilitate emotional expression. Some examples of this include using various art mediums, journaling, making a collage, playing with a sand tray, taking a walk, and listening to guided imagery or mindfulness meditations.
Sometimes, we just get stuck. Our emotional pain capacity is maxed out and it becomes hard to verbalize anything at all. Experiential activities help re-engage our brains in a new way to help all of that emotion flow again; it also helps take the pressure off of keeping up the verbal dialogue in the therapy room. Though everyone can benefit from experiential activities, I find these interventions to be a big hit with my tween and teen crowd.
Respectful Parenting and Positive Discipline
The premise of the Positive Discipline model is that discipline must be taught and that discipline teaches. Positive discipline is about using kindness and firmness, and is neither permissive nor punitive. Positive discipline is about relating to our children as human beings who need connection and the opportunity to learn the skills, capabilities, and behaviors we expect from them.
As a Certified Positive Discipline Parent Educator, I can help you develop a relationship with your child that is based on mutual respect. We can figure out what basic needs your child is trying to meet based on the specific behavior challenges they are having. We can help transform your parent-child relationship to one based on solutions, not punishment.